This morning, after I finished my devotion and prayer time – I remained in the little corner of our couch where I snuggle up to sip coffee and spend time with my Lord. Cuddled under a warm blanket and finishing the remains of what had been a steaming cup of coffee, I began to flip through pages of scripture. Not seeking anything – just glancing over passages.
A verse captured my attention and I immediately wanted to push past it and continue my perusing. The passage always bothered me. Mostly because I had spent a lot of my life being angry – feeling as if I had every right. I just assumed it was a pointed arrow in my direction and I disliked it with all of my heart.
“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.” Proverbs 21:9
So, I instinctively moved as many pages as I could to continue on.
But something urged me back – and I wasn’t able to find it. I reached for my phone and searched for the passage with “brawling woman”. And to my disbelief – this passage is in scripture twice.
“It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.” Proverbs 25:24
At this point, my coffee was more cold than hot – but I sat and sipped while I thought on those words.
Why was it so important that it would be mentioned not once, but twice?
When I began to imagine this brawling woman, I envision one – angry at her husband. Yelling, maybe throwing a dish or two. In general, I always saw her as unhappy and brawling – with a husband.
Unhappy with him.
Fighting with him.
But – what if that isn’t the whole meaning?
Perhaps the warning here is a little more broad. Maybe it’s someone who is ready to brawl – with anyone over anything when the opportunity presents itself.
As I’ve aged, I’ve calmed down quite a bit. I’m no longer as quick to want to argue with others – and I tend to avoid “brawling” situations whether they be online or in person.
But, this morning I began to wonder – do I still gripe and complain over trivial matters or situations out of my control and allow my brawling words to dampen the spirit of those around me? What do my husband and children hear and see from me?
What do others feel when they are around me? Do those on my social media channels need to scroll on by because my posts are of a brawling nature?
I say all of this out of contemplation and in the hopes that if I have been that way – I move on a different person as I try to be nearer to my Saviour and point others to Him.