So, I don’t have the answer.
And for everyone – the solution will be different. Because each experience is unique.
But I do know this…
Knowing Jesus – doesn’t “stop the suicides”.
And to lean on that as your answer – is naive.
I may have believed the same way if I had never been suicidal.
Please know that I am no longer suicidal – but I do fear that it could return – because it came out of nowhere when it happened to me. My postpartum depression hit me like a brick. I’m so thankful to no longer be in that place. But I no longer live in a world shaded by rose-colored glasses.
But, again, I know Jesus – I love Jesus. And that wasn’t enough to keep the thoughts out of my head. Praying harder, reading more scripture, reading more devotionals – didn’t help. It didn’t miraculously drive out the depression.
Was Job miraculously taken from his sorrow? No, he had to go through it.
Again, knowing Jesus didn’t remove me from my depressed and suicidal state.
In fact, knowing His love and that He was in a wonderful place – actually made the thought of immediately taking myself to Him much more appealing. I cannot even begin to describe how appealing and how close heaven became.
Unfortunately, there wasn’t a ten-step program or magic pill that I took to be here 10+ years later.
I was cared for by wonderful professionals.
I was loved and cared for by a sweet and devoted husband.
I was loved and cared for by an amazing mother.
Those worked hand-in-hand to keep me and sustain me. Even though I hurt deeply through that time, and had a very hard time hanging on. Somehow, I’m still here. I know that those around me hurt during that time as well.
There isn’t a one-size-fits-all for depression and “curing” or caring for it. I certainly am not pushing aside what Christ can do for those that hurt. But to believe that simply knowing Christ will solve this is as naive to believe that knowing Christ will cure one’s cancer. Someone who is depressed or suicidal isn’t “sad”. It runs so deep – into a depth that you cannot imagine if you haven’t been there.
Pray for them.
Love them. In the way that they need loved from you.
Care for them. In the way that they need cared for by you.
Be there for them. In the way they need you.